Phil Bohol is a founder, entrepreneur, and coach who speaks openly about leadership, discipline, and family. In this episode of his mindset podcast, Phil speaks directly to high-performing parents and entrepreneurs who are building businesses while trying not to lose their kids in the process.
This episode is for business owners, fathers, and mothers who believe they are providing for their children, but quietly worry they are not truly present. If you are chasing success while feeling the weight of time slipping by, this entrepreneur-focused conversation reframes what love, leadership, and responsibility actually look like at home.
Phil records this episode on his daughter’s fifth birthday, which sets the tone immediately. He explains that loving your kids is not just about sacrifice, money, or long hours at work. Love is built through presence, attention, and shared moments. No level of business success can replace the absence of connection.
Drawing from his own childhood, Phil reflects on how little he truly knew about his parents beyond surface details. He challenges listeners to ask a hard question. Is providing financially enough if your children don’t know who you are, what you care about, or how to connect with you emotionally?
Throughout the episode, Phil emphasizes the importance of slowing down. He explains why inviting your kids into everyday tasks, even when it takes longer, creates core memories that shape how they view love, safety, and leadership. Being present is not about grand gestures. It is about choosing involvement over efficiency.
Phil also addresses boundaries. Building a business requires discipline, but family time must be protected. When work bleeds into every evening and weekend, children learn that they come second. Phil shares why intentional cutoff times and fully present family windows are essential for both success and peace.
At its core, this episode is about perspective. Childhood is short. The years move fast. Phil reminds listeners that one day, the opportunity to create memories will be gone, regardless of how much money was made.
This episode reflects Phil Bohol’s broader work around mindset, leadership, and intentional living. It is not about guilt or perfection. It is about awareness, discipline, and choosing what truly matters while you still can.
Listen with the intention to slow down, reassess your priorities, and show up fully for the people who will remember how you made them feel long after the business goals are met.
Gotta make today a little bit quick. It's my daughter's fifth birthday. We're celebrating, and this is why the topic of, uh, for today is love your kids. See, loving your kids. A lot of the times people think it's just a sacrifice, right? Like, work nine to five. Every day, 40 hours, 50 hours, 60 hours work, work, work to give them whatever life that you can possibly give 'em.
I don't believe that that's actually how you're supposed to do it. I believe that how you love your kids is how much quality and present time you spend with them. And that's the most important thing to cultivate. It really doesn't matter what you do in life. It doesn't matter how successful you are in life, in business, whatever it is that you as a high performer may want to drive toward.
If while you're doing that, you're leaving behind your family, your kids get to know you. As the person that's never really there because they're at work, they're trying to provide, they don't get to personally connect with you. They don't get to bond with you in that way. So is that really love? I don't believe so.
You know, I, I've, I've had a situation where I've had parents that were out there operating do what they could do up until I was about 10 years old. And the only things I know about my parents man, is their names. I think one parent, my, my dad's favorite color, if it's still blue, I don't know. Um, that we're from the Philippines, where they're from, from the Philippines.
I kind of know a little bit about my grandfather. One that he was a boat maker. And, um, aside from that, from a personal standpoint. I don't really know much about my parents. You know, I can assume, I can guess if, if I was to look back on my childhood, I can be like, okay, well I think my dad listened to like rock.
And then my mom listened to like oldies, you know, like unchained melody. Aside from that, I, I'm guessing even with that, I'm guessing. You see what I mean? So is that the form of love that we should then give to our kids? I don't believe so, and that's why I don't do that. I really take the time to not only get to know my kids, I love all my kids where they feel that connection with me.
I talk to them about myself so they can get to know their father. You know what I mean? And, and I, and I ask them what do they like? So I get to know them. And so that way there's this bond where it's like. I actually feel bonded to my kids. It's not just like I'm the dad that, that literally, um, they're, they're my DNA and that's what makes me the father.
No, it's. I have provided for these children. I have built security for them. Their future is set. I am there, I am present. We create memories together. There's so many things they're gonna be able to look back on in their childhood and as they continue to grow of our relationship, and that becomes a foundation to how they will view the world.
I believe that's what it means to love your kids and you know you love your kids however you can. But don't ever forget, there's not more that you need to acquire in this life to love your kids more. Loving your kids more means no matter what type of hardship you're personally going through, whatever you're carrying, to learn how to like, pause, create space, and realize, like for those children, you are their world.
So whatever it is you're going through in business and life, put that aside. Spend time with your kids. Love on 'em. Give 'em that space. Because the thing is, and I really feel this way, and I felt this way even before they were born, while they were still in the tummy, even when we started talking about having kids, I'm only gonna have a short time with these kids.
Time moves so fast. Damn. My daughter's already five. I was telling my wife, I was like, man, it was like yesterday. She was just born. We got our other one. She, she's about to turn two in a couple months. Five years old man in, in another five years, which this was a blip in time. She's 10, five years after that, boom.
15, five years after that, boom, she's at the house, dammit. You know, like, ah, we basically have to just do the last five years, three more times and we're already at that stage and I'm already heartbroken about it. You see what I mean? Like that's how deeply I feel like there's still not enough time as present as I am.
There's not enough time. So soak it in. Be intentional about making members. Here's, here's one secret that, that you can take from today. We were just having, um, my daughter's uncle, my, my, my wife's brother, little brother. And he was like putting these macaroons or whatever on a plate, right? And then my daughter, whose birthday it is, Ella, she's like, Hey, can I help you?
Uh, do you need help? And he, well, he was kind of in his zone and he was like, putting the macrons on. He said, no, I got it. And I said. Jayden, let her help you. She wants to be part of the process. Okay? Listen to what I'm saying. You don't need to get it done, whatever it is that you're doing. Washing dishes, cleaning your car, cleaning your garage, cleaning the house, cleaning the toys, um, um, installing new light fixtures, fixing the toilet, whatever it is that you're doing.
Invite your children to help you with it. And it might take two times, five times, 10 times a million times longer that way, but that becomes a core memory and they deserve that. You see what I mean? You gotta slow down. Stop trying to operate so fast that you miss out on life because what's the point of the successful business?
If, if you missed out on life during that process, what's the point of making all that money? If you lost all that time and your kids are grown and, and, and like, they don't even give a shit that you, you got all that money. You see what I mean? Like, what's the point of that? Imagine getting to the point of success where you're like, oh yeah, I got my family to the level.
And then when it, when it's like holidays and like. Everybody's talking about their favorite memories with everybody when it comes to you. Yeah. My dad got us this house. Yeah, my dad got us. So like we can drive nice cars and have nice things. That's their core memory with you. I'd be so sad if that was it.
See, I wanna make sure, and, and I'm very intentional about this, I wanna make sure that my children have so many resources in their mind. Core memories. Core pillars with dad. I want that to, I want that, that is my one thing, that they have these great memories with their father. Why? Because this is how they're gonna view man in the future.
This is what they're gonna accept into their life. This is how they're gonna let people treat them. Th this is, this becomes the, the start of it all. And so to show them what a good man is like, it starts from the home. It starts from now. So that way I set them up to, to at least set themselves up good for the future.
Who knows what's gonna happen down the road, but at least I tried my best to love on them, to show them what love looks like, healthy, good, love, uh, uh, a dad who's patient, who's kind, who's there to let them cry on the on his shoulders to be there to help toughen them up when they need to get tough. But still have that soft spot when it's time to just, uh, outflow emotions, all of it, all the healthy things that we were just not taught.
That's what they're gonna take into the world. So don't love on your kids in the way that maybe you were loved, if it was bad love on your kids, the way that they deserve to be loved by their protectors, by their providers. See how that changes your relationship. And yeah, it's gonna take a little bit more outta you because you're gonna be tired, you're gonna be working, you're gonna be building the business, you're gonna be making all these moves.
People are gonna be hitting you up while you're trying to be present with your family. And you have to decide that family time is extremely important to you. And that is a boundary that if it's between this time and this time, that's work. But after that family time, on the weekend, Sundays, family time, nothing.
Nothing affects that. And there's gonna be seasons in your life where you kind of have to flex with that a little bit. For the, for the most part, go back to the discipline. Make that the normal. Don't make busy work working the weekends, working 24 fucking seven. Don't make that the normal for them. I think that's what it means to love on your kids.
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It's gonna help you do all of these things, or just listen to everything that I launch, listen to everything that I say, but most importantly, apply it into your life. We're gonna go celebrate baby girl's birthday. I'm gonna soak it all in, man, because it's just, it's hitting me. 'cause she's also starting school soon.
And bro, I'm just like, fuck. You know? But we're homeschooling her so it's all good. It's still the next level and sometimes I don't even feel prepared for it. But all we can do is all we can do and all we can do is our best. And that's exactly what I teach my daughters. See you on the next one.