Phil Bohol is a founder, coach, and operator who speaks openly about leadership, identity, and personal responsibility. In this episode of his mindset podcast, Phil addresses business owners and entrepreneurs who feel stuck because they care too much about other people’s opinions.
This episode is for anyone building a business, a career, or a life that feels misaligned because external judgment keeps dictating their decisions. If you feel pulled between who you are and who you think you’re supposed to be, this business and entrepreneur podcast episode will hit close to home.
Phil breaks down a hard truth most people avoid. Worrying about what others think is one of the fastest ways to stall growth. The need for approval creates hesitation, watered-down ambition, and quiet resentment. According to Phil, people will judge you no matter what you do. Success does not silence critics. It often creates more of them.
Throughout the episode, Phil explains how fear of judgment is usually rooted in self-worth. When you value other people’s opinions more than your own, their words carry weight. When you know who you are and why you’re building, those same opinions lose their power. This shift is not about ego. It is about internal alignment.
Phil also addresses how past experiences like bullying, rejection, or trying to fit in can shape adult decision-making. Many entrepreneurs try to build something meaningful while still operating from old mental patterns. That internal conflict shows up as self-doubt, comparison, and constantly second-guessing progress.
This conversation is not about chasing status, money, or material success to prove something to others. Phil shares why he stepped away from trying to replicate what everyone else was doing and focused instead on clarity, purpose, and becoming comfortable being different. For him, real fulfillment came from understanding who he is, not who the world expected him to be.
The episode closes with an invitation to look inward. Growth starts when you stop outsourcing belief and start developing trust in yourself. That work changes how you lead, how you build, and how you show up in every area of life.
This episode reflects Phil Bohol’s broader work around mindset, leadership, and identity. It is part of an ongoing conversation about building a life and business from the inside out, not from social pressure or approval.
Listen closely, reflect honestly, and consider where you are still letting other people write your story.
You know what your issue is. You worry too much about what people are gonna think about what you do, what you build, what you say, what you win at, what you lose at. You're too worried about the outside world, and that is the thing that's always gonna hold you back. I mean, what's the point of worrying about all of the people who don't even matter in your life?
Do you want people that want to tear you down, that don't support you, that talk shit behind your back? Do you really want people like that in your corner or taking up space in your mind? In your life? Are those really the people you want to give your energy to? Doesn't really make sense to me, and the sad part is.
You do this. A lot of people you know do this. A lot of the world does this, so it's very normal. But if you want to create something that's not normal in this life, something great, or even maybe it doesn't have to be the greatest thing in the world, but it's better than the life that you had is better than the life that that your parents had.
You wanna build something greater than that. You gotta get used to not being normal. And the fucked up part about this is if you're been bullied as a kid, middle school, high school, anytime in your life for being different, that mentality can hinder you. But you gotta understand you're not a kid anymore.
You, you want to build a name for yourself. You wanna build something for yourself, something meaningful, something you can stand on, be proud of. Only way you're gonna be able to do that is by being different. So what you gotta start to ask yourself is, why is it that I worry about what all of these people think?
Why am I worried about how they're gonna respond if they're gonna support me, if they're gonna show love, or if they're gonna say words that make me doubt myself? The question is, why would you allow that into your life? The thing that I found is people are gonna say shit no matter what. If they're gonna say shit behind your back or they're gonna say it directly to you.
And what happens is when you start making decisions and showing the world that you're willing to go all in on you, on your dreams. More people will try to voice their opinions at you because it triggers in them that they are not willing to take those risks. They're not gonna do what you're gonna do.
They're not gonna make the investments, they're not gonna put the money down. They're not gonna put the time in. They're not gonna hustle and struggle through whatever it's gonna take to build something meaningful. They know that, and there's a part of them that understands that you might, you might actually make it through.
And some of these people that are gonna show love to you, they're gonna talk shit about you. Behind your back. There's gonna be people in your life, family, friends, colleagues, people you network with that gonna say they support you, but on the backside they don't. You're gonna have your, your spouse, your loved ones, your parents, people that mean something to you.
Try to bring you down, tear you down, and they think it's coming from a place of love. And in your mind you're like, why can't you just support me? You know that when I win, like I'm bringing you guys along. But every time I try to talk about what I'm trying to do, you guys bring me down when I'm just trying to make a better life for us.
The thing is, it's not their responsibility to believe in you. You gotta believe in you. You gotta believe in you in in the dark times. You gotta believe in you, and you got no results to show for it. You gotta believe in you. When all of that motivation and support from everybody else starts to die down because they're just waiting for the result.
They see you talking and talking and talking, but at some point they're gonna see, well, what happens if I stop supporting him? What happens that, what is he gonna do? For you to show up, not for them, not for the sake of their support, not for the sake of any type of attention from the outside world, but more so for yourself to prove, I don't need anybody.
I don't need anybody to win. I got me. I'm gonna believe in me, and I know that I'm gonna do good with the success that I find in the future. You gotta prove that to yourself. I get how easy it is to like hide behind everybody else's judgment. But the thing is, your judgment on yourself is worse than all of that.
The judgment in yourself is, well, if I put myself out there, if I'm different and people say good, bad, ugly shit about me, the judgment I will have on myself is far worse than that. That's a danger, and you gotta understand that at the core of all of this,
whether you acknowledge it or not, now whether you look inward or not, now
you have a self-worth issue.
See if you felt worthy of everything that you say you want, you would be whoever you need to be to have that already. When people say negative things about you, your style, the way you carry yourself, the way that you talk, the way that you are, there's no weight behind their words because you know who you are and you value your opinion far more than anybody else's.
So the fact that you're letting all of these outside opinions and voices control how you even narrate your own life means that you are more concerned about their opinion. You're more, you value their opinion far more than you value your own. And that's why a lot of this work is from the inside out. So in order for you to get to the next level in life, in business, in marriage, in family, with your own personal happiness, you gotta start to ask yourself the hard questions.
Why do I worry so much about people's opinions of me? Why am I so afraid to take my time to win in the way that I need to win? Why do I keep trying to replicate what everybody else is doing when I feel called to, to be or do or have and just live different than other people Today, I used to be caught in this game of, well, everybody else has that stuff, so I, I probably gotta go have that stuff if I wanna be with the crowd.
Gotta be with the cool guys. Everybody looks like they're running over there, but you know what I found behind all of that material? Unhappy broken men. That's why I stopped with the bullshit. I started to focus on me. What makes me happy? What makes me proud? Figuring out who I am, not who I think the world wants me to be, not who I think my family wants me to be, not who I think I need to be for the world, but more so who did God call me to be?
Who my purpose to be? Who am I? And when I started asking myself the real questions of life. The harder questions to answer than the easy shit. Life started to have a purpose, meaning something to look forward to, to try to uncover, try to unpack, reason to show up every day. To answer that massive question, that's probably gonna take me the rest of my life to continuously answer because it feels like the more that I know myself, the more I realize I don't know about myself.
The more I get to know myself, the more I realize how much I've rejected myself, the more that I dig through all of the bullshit layers and false armor that I've been wearing my entire life, the more I realize there's so much more to me than just means the eye. There's more to me than I've even found so far.
So I hope that you continue on this journey with me on personal development. On learning how to love yourself on learning how to change, how we even talk to ourselves, view ourselves, because it's very different than what the world, what society will tell you is normal. I'm gonna invite you to think, speak, operate more like yourself than you ever have before, and that's why it's gonna scare the fuck out of you, because when's the last time in your life you are ever fully yourself.
The good, the bad, the ugly. What you'll find is it's probably never just like it was for me, but what I guarantee you is if you stay with me and you apply what I teach you, you'll be happier, you'll be more fulfilled. You will finally be able to access this every evolving purpose that you have. And you'll have a mission in life.
And hopefully one day as you take on that torch of life, you pass a torch of knowledge to somebody else who needs it. And I think that's what we're supposed to do. I will find out. I'm even getting more comfortable sharing my message and my point of view in the world today after five years of being online.
This is the most I've shared ever, and there's still so much more to share. So stay plugged in, engage. So I know you're here. Drop comments with what you uncover. I would love to hear what you're learning about what you're implementing in your life and the things that are changing in your life. Subscribe to the channel.
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