Phil Bohol is a founder, operator, and coach known for his direct approach to leadership, execution, and personal responsibility. In this episode of his mindset podcast, Phil speaks directly to business owners and entrepreneurs who feel stuck at a crossroads and are hesitating on a decision that could change everything.
This episode is for anyone wrestling with a big decision in business or life and quietly hoping for more clarity before moving forward. If you run a business, lead a family, or carry responsibility for other people, this conversation will challenge how you think about fear, timing, and confidence.
At the core of this business and entrepreneur podcast episode is a hard truth. Not making a decision is still a decision. Freezing, waiting, or overthinking is often driven by fear, not logic. Phil breaks down why analysis paralysis keeps people stuck and why the breakthrough rarely comes from more thinking. It comes from committing and stepping forward.
Phil explains how many business decisions feel hard not because of the business itself, but because of the personal consequences attached to them. Family, finances, identity, and responsibility all collide at once. He walks through how unclear goals and vague timelines create fear, while clarity around purpose and urgency builds confidence.
The episode also dives into leadership at home. Phil shares how a lack of conviction in your own decisions can spill into relationships, especially with a spouse. When a leader speaks without confidence, others feel it immediately. Responsibility gets deflected. Momentum dies. What looks like external resistance often starts internally.
Throughout the episode, Phil reinforces a core leadership principle. The moment you decide to move forward from a place of power instead of fear, things begin to shift. Energy changes. Execution improves. Confidence returns. The breakthrough often happens at the decision itself, not at the destination.
This episode reflects Phil Bohol’s broader work around discipline, leadership, and execution under pressure. It is not a motivational rant. It is a grounded breakdown of how real decisions get made when the stakes are high and excuses stop working.
If you are feeling stuck, uncertain, or hesitant to move forward, this conversation will help you reframe what is actually holding you back. Listen closely, reflect honestly, and most importantly, make a decision and execute.
So what are you supposed to do if you are not confident about the next decision, the next big decision in business or in life? There's a lot to do. There's a lot to do, and it's probably not what you think. And a lot of people overthink the next decision. Let me put it into perspective, okay? If you have a big decision to make in your personal life or in your business not making a decision.
Freezing is a decision in itself. It's a decision to fail. People don't realize that not doing anything is a decision. It's complacency. It's operating from a place of fear, and is the perfect and dream life that you want or this next phase in your life ever gonna happen from a place of fear? I hope you know the answer is no.
So what do we do in those situations? It's important that we understand the answer isn't out there somewhere and you're not gonna Google it chat GBT it or search for it, and you're gonna so happen upon the answer, the true location of the answer that you seek is inside. Now what do I mean by that? When you don't know if it's the right decision to make, people that get stuck in analysis paralysis are too stuck in the logical mind.
They are overthinking the hell out of this next decision. What we have to do is we have to move where our focus is from the mind into the heart. Believe it or not, your heart will actually take you to where you're trying to get to. Woo woo or not, whatever you want to think about that or believe that whenever you followed your heart, it's usually led you to a good place because you know yourself.
What happens though is if you fucked up in the past or if you've done dumb things that have gotten you to a worse position, your mind will try to override the heart because the mind's now saying, if that's true and I should trust you, how did you get us here? Where we're stuck now? And again, that's, this is where we have to understand this is the inner workings of the mind.
And so you have to ask yourself, what is this decision? Let's put it from a business perspective, and then I'll go into personal. I have to make this investment into my business. I'm scared as hell if I should do it. I'm scared as hell if it's the right choice to make for myself, for my family in this season, in our life, especially when you start to either you got kids already or you're planning to have kids, or you're planning for this like personal life change.
The business decisions are not hard business decisions. They're hard because the personal aspect of what could happen if this is the wrong business decision. Does that make sense? It has more to do with the personal side of things. So what we have to do is we have to look to the future a little bit. We have to ask ourselves, if I were to make this decision and boldly step into myself, what is it that I want to accomplish and in what time period.
Here's what I find, especially with either newer business owners, entrepreneurs, or maybe seasoned, but they've forgotten the basics. If you don't know what you're sacrificing for, number one, and number two in what timeline you're giving yourself to accomplish the mission, of course you will have nothing but fear.
You don't know where you're going and you don't know how long it's gonna get take to get there. So of course it's gonna be scary. But what if you knew exactly where you were going and exactly how long it would take to get there? You would have the confidence to obviously make the decision. So that's the first place I would start by making this business decision, this business investment number one.
Where are you trying to get to as far as the quantifiable results? Is it more money? How much more money is it? What does that money mean to you? You can't just pull up a random number out of thin air and say, that's my goal. The goal has to have some type of emotional charge to it, for it to mean anything to you.
And then number two, how long are you giving yourself? Because what I find is if you're giving yourself three to five years to hit target. That's cool, but you're never gonna have the internal urgency to really make this decision now because you're giving yourself too much time. There's this, I don't know if it's a law or a theory, but basically if you give yourself three to five years, it will take three to five years.
If you give yourself six to 12 months. You'll get it done in six to 12 months because we use what we're given. So if you decide, I don't wanna wait three to five years to hit this target that I'm clear on now, and I know why I want to hit that target, I'll be able to provide for my wife, kids, retire, my wife, be at home with my kids more, blah, blah, blah, take vacations, whatever again, that money means for you.
But instead of three to five years, when my kids are a little bit older, I want to, I wanna do that in the next year. I, I really wanna push myself by next year. To be in a position where we can do all these things. Now what you're gonna do is you're gonna start feeling that internal urgency. Oh shit. Now it feels, it really feels like it's game on.
And when that happens, that's where you have to understand you're gonna be at this cross in the road, right? This fork in the road. And what's gonna happen is, should I do this now? Or should I find a reason to just do this a little bit later? Even if it's a week, two or three or a month, it's the end of the year.
It's New Year's. I'm just gonna, I'm gonna, I'm gonna wait until January 1st. When it's new year, new me, that's when there's gonna be good energy or the moon and the sun will align and create an eclipse. And at that point, it's a perfect opportunity to do that. Or the numbers will tell me something. People will come up with all types of shit before they make a decision again.
Indecision is a decision and themselves that fail. So what are we gonna do? And this is where the breakthrough happens. So a lot of people, once they hit this fork, they're like, man, I'm gonna stay at this fork though, and I'm gonna think it through for as long as I need because I know that I'm at this fork in the road, so I know I'm exactly where I need to be.
The reality is the breakthrough happens from the decision that you make, okay? The decision that you make, which is probably the scary decision, which is actually to move forward. Not to find an excuse, obviously, but to move forward. That's where the breakthrough happens, and most people don't realize that they don't actually have to wait until they get to the end destination.
When they make that hard call. The breakthrough in the paradigm shifts actually happen the moment you make a decision to step forward. In a place of power versus fear, and that's when unlocks start to happen. That's when you start to receive different energy. That's when the business stuff starts to work itself out, and then the personal stuff starts to work itself out and you're just like, I don't even know what happened.
It's been like a day and I just decided to go this direction. It's because you broke your own paradigm and you shifted it to something else that you are more confident in yourself than maybe you've given yourself credit for. Thus moving from fear to power. And that's what happens in business growth. A lot of the times when it comes to business growth or business stagnation, it's because the operator, the business owner, the founder, stops believing in themselves that they're gonna be able to follow through.
And because they hold onto that fear, of course, every decision about business is now through the lens of fear, and that obviously breeds a lack of confidence over time, and that's a massive fucking problem if you wanna grow in business. Let's think about personal life. If you have this big decision to make in your personal life in relation to changing your family's life, what happens?
I don't wanna make a decision right now. I don't want my wife to be mad at me. I don't want to be in a position where she's second guessing what I'm doing. Again, just like we did for the business side, we've gotta take two steps back and consider why is that? Why are those variables at play in the first place?
You don't know what decision to make for your family, which is indecision. So you're undecided, right? You have this, you don't have a conviction in how you speak about things. You have this, I'm unsure, babe, can, these are my thoughts. I just don't really know what I want to do, babe. Then what happens? Babe goes over there and she's like, well, fuck, this dude is not even confident.
He's gonna be able to follow through or do the thing. He doesn't even seem confident about it. You know what, I'm just gonna, I'm gonna draw the line. I don't want you to do this right now. Then the man comes back and the man's like, oh, well my wife doesn't support me, so I don't even know if this is the right decision.
I'm gonna, I'm gonna sit on this for a little bit more. Do you see how it's a self-fulfilling prophecy in that space that because you, the true decision maker, are unconfident in yourself, you project that lack of confidence to your wife, to your spouse. Thus she. Does not believe in your words. Thus, you use her as an excuse.
I don't know what to do right now. My wife doesn't support me. Of course she doesn't. Why would she? You don't even sound confident. Imagine this. Imagine it's a zombie apocalypse and you have two men. Hey man, number one fucking babe. We're gonna fucking dominate. We're gonna crush. What we're gonna do is we're gonna go build some shelter.
Obviously in a place where there's concrete fences, things like that, maybe we can have a place where we can really surround ourselves and build some type of compound to keep the zombies out. And what we're gonna do is we're gonna set rotation so we can go hunt for whatever food or cans we can find that's available.
And what we're gonna do is we're gonna get all the people that are with us, and we're gonna get together, we're gonna strategize this whole fucking thing. And then tonight we're gonna go get some fucking food. Everybody else focus on shelter. Boom. Let's go. Right? There's dude number one right there, and then other dude, okay.
Gets stuck with his family. Oh, shit. Oh shit. Oh shit. Ibu. I need to breathe. We need to breathe. We just need to take a second. We just need to take a second. Okay. The world's ending, the zombies gonna come after us. I, I, honestly, I hope we can find somebody to help us. We have to look. We have to help, help, help, help, help, help.
Help. Can you imagine the fear in that family watching the dad like, oh shit, I don't know what to do. I hope somebody finds us. I hope somebody gives me the answer. I hope somebody versus the man who takes charge. You see what I'm saying? See the difference. How are, how is anybody supposed to receive that?
If you show a lack of confidence in your own decision making process? So what a lot of people like to do in these bouts of indecision is to throw the responsibility to somebody. My wife doesn't support me. The universe is not aligning. There's no eclipse. The numbers. It's not the numbers. That's fucked, dude.
What else? Oh, it's not the right time. No shit, Sherlock. Of course, it's not the right time. It never is, which is why you're. You either make the time or you keep using the excuse that it's not the right time. Ah, well, life is hard. Hasn't life been hard, bro? Like, you know, like, think about any excuse you could possibly think of and be like, oh, duh, no shit.
Of course, that's my excuse, because that excuse has led me to be stuck here in the first place. So if I keep going on this hamster wheel, I shouldn't really expect any different results. So the biggest thing you have to do is you gotta, again, displace, take a couple steps back and ask yourself, what is this decision in front of me?
What is this big life change that's in front of me? And what's the purpose of it? Right? Business or personal is the same thing. We have to set our GPS. What is the purpose of it? And in what timeline am I giving myself to accomplish the mission? Because again, if I say three to five years, I will take three to five years, but if I say in the next year, now it's game on.
Let's bring this all the way home. If you have a decision in front of you, okay, it's scary as hell and you don't know if you're gonna follow through. You don't know if you're gonna be able to deliver. You have to ask yourself, who are you trying to strategically align yourself with, and do they one, have the results in business and in life that show you that they actually know what the fuck they're talking about?
Don't just listen to anybody. Like anybody can say anything that they want that they read from a book, but somebody that says, I have business success, but can't ever show you their family. Not weird, okay? So anybody can make money, but how come you never show your family? Is your family like not good because you put the business first, but then you preach like all this stuff about family and business, but we never see your family.
That's a weird thing, right? So just. Think about it, right? Put two and two together. Who am I strategically aligning myself with to get to where I'm trying to get to? Number two, have they shown through the years that they've actually been able to do it? Not only once, but consistently throughout time? And number three, do I feel like this person can understand what it is that would hold me back and then kick me in the ass if I need to?
So that way I can get to where I'm trying to get to? Because if you have confidence in that, then at the end of the day. All it goes all the way back to is yourself and a decision that needs to be made inside that nobody else can make for you. Not your wife, not your kids, not the person or the people that you're planning to invest into or do business with.
It's all gonna come down to you. And that is the burden of leadership. Every successful person in the world has had to burden the responsibility of decisions that can make or break wherever it is they're trying to get to. But it's the greats that take risks on themselves knowing it's not a risk because they will follow through or they'll find a way forward that achieve the success that they.
Things to think about if these types of tips are helpful for you. As always, subscribe to the channel. Drop me some love, let me know what your biggest takeaways were, and we just gotta keep pushing. But the biggest thing is make a decision. Execute, execute, execute. Allow yourself the ability to operate from a different vantage point every single day if possible.
And then just realize that life in business will move forward with or without you trying to force it. Because you're just moving forward, and that's the difference between somebody successful and somebody unsuccessful. So again, get to it.